A Man Is Refusing to Babysit His Nephew After Sister Asked That He Stop Bringing His Boyfriend to Family Events

Mar. 15, 2025

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The man, 20, posted to Reddit’s"Am I the A——“forum on Tuesday, Dec. 10, to recount a conversation he had with his sister, Amanda, 28, during a recent family barbeque. The poster said he attended the event with his 22-year-old boyfriend, Ryan.

After the get-together, the original poster shared that his sister pulled him aside and said, “Hey just so you know it might be better if you don’t bring Ryan to the next few family gatherings.”

When pressed about the comment, Amanda “got all awkward” and claimed her 4-year-old son, Jack, was asking questions about the Redditor’s relationship with his boyfriend — apparently also arguing that Jack “isn’t old enough to understand all that yet.”

“I told her we weren’t exactly putting on a Pride parade in her yard. We were literally just eating hot dogs and chatting with family,” the original poster shared. “She replied, ‘It’s just confusing for him. You know how kids are.’ "

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“I was mad but kept it together,” the poster recalled, noting that he said, “If Ryan isn’t welcome, maybe I just won’t come either” — to which his sister accused him of being dramatic.

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A blow-out fight ensued, with Amanda accusing her brother of punishing his nephew “because you’re mad at me.”

The poster says his sister then involved their parents, with his mother ultimately taking his sister’s side. “Mum brushed it off saying ‘She’s just doing what’s best for her child,’ " to which the poster says he replied, “What about what’s best for me? Why do I have to hide part of my life to make her comfortable?”

The argument escalated to a family group chat, with some family members siding with the sister and others supporting the original poster.

Most of the Reddit forum users told the original poster that he is “not the a——,” with one commenting, “It’s disappointing that this has divided your family, it really brings out their true colors. I think you should go little to no contact with your sister.”

In response to that message, the original poster says he hasn’t “spoken to my sister in days now” and is considering ending their relationship.

“What ‘awkward questions’ are they talking about?” wrote another commenter. “It’s really very easy to explain to a four-year-old that grown adults can be in a relationship with each other, whether it’s a man and a woman, two men, or two women.”

source: people.com