Dolores Catania Defends Dorinda Medley'sTraitorsOutburst Because 'Emotions Are Not Rational in the Housewife World'

Mar. 15, 2025

Real Housewives and ‘Traitors’ season 3 contestants Dolores Catania (left) and Dorinda Medley.Photo:Euan Cherry/Peacock (2)

Euan Cherry/Peacock (2)

Dorinda Medleydidn’t make it nice enough in theTraitorscastle.

TheReal Housewives of New York Cityalum, 60, expressed frustration with being left behind in the first mission of season 3, and as a result, the Traitors murdered her first.

Medley’s fellow Housewife andTraitorscastmateDolores Cataniaalso stayed behind in the first mission, but she handled things differently than theReal Housewives Ultimate Girls Tripstar.

“I couldn’t be mad at everybody because of my decision,” Catania, 54, told hostAlan Cummingat theTraitorsseason 3 premiere party at Club Cumming in N.Y.C. “That’s why I was a little quiet when Dorinda was yelling at everyone.”

‘The Traitors’ host Alan Cumming at the show’s season 3 premiere party at his Club Cumming in N.Y.C. on Jan. 9, 2024.Ralph Bavaro/Peacock

Ralph Bavaro/Peacock

Catania admitted she’d “made the mistake of challenging” Medley in the past and learned, “You have to let Housewives calm down first.”

“Is that true?” Cumming wondered. Catania then doubled down, explaining, “Yes, emotions are not rational in the Housewife world!”

“Then you tell them how you feel,” theReal Housewives of New Jerseystar said. “Or get them drunk and you have some fun and you try to forget about what just happened. So you can have a job still.”

‘The Traitors’ season 3 contestants (from left) Wells Adams, Danielle Reyes, Dylan Efron, Tom Sandoval, Britney Haynes, Jeremy Collins, Dolores Catania and Dorinda Medley.Euan Cherry/Peacock

Euan Cherry/Peacock

The mother of two describedTraitorsas “really hard.”

“At one point I said, ‘I think I have to go back to street smart school because I am floored,” Catania said. “You will be very surprised how things went.”

‘The Traitors’ season 3 contestants compete in their first mission.Euan Cherry/Peacock

The group ultimately decided that, with the time they had left, they’d be better served turning around and heading back to land with the $20,000 they retrieved rather than timing out in pursuit of the last $20,000. They made it back with half of the potential prize money, and assured safety from murder for all but eight players. The safe contestants headed back to the castle at the end of the mission while those on the pontoons awaited rescue.

When Medley finally got back to the castle with the other volunteers, she asked the group why they didn’t go for the last $20,000.

“We were all very tired,”Dylan Efronexplained.

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Medley did not like that answer.

“You may be tired, but we may be murdered,” Medley replied. “You felt so bad they scarified the money for our lives. That’s how bad they felt. We’re eating what’s left over and we’re gonna be murdered tonight. The wild thing is, I didn’t even see an effort. When I was getting up, there wasn’t even an echo saying, ‘No, no, let me go.’ And I would never have done what I did for the team if I knew it wasn’t an all-in.”

‘Real Housewives of New York City’ alum Dorinda Medley and Alan Cumming on ‘The Traitors’ season 3.Euan Cherry/Peacock

Survivor’sJeremy Collinspointed out that a Traitor might have volunteered to step off because they knew they wouldn’t be murdered.

“I don’t have an agenda,” Medley assured. “When I saw Dolores get off as a fellow Housewife, as a woman, someone that’s loyal, someone that’s a mama bear, someone that was working for the team…”

“Someone that could be a Traitor,”Lord Ivar Mountbattenjumped in.

Medley then called out the British royal, 61, for not moving “even remotely” to get off the boat during the mission.

“I put myself out to be murdered tonight,” Medley said. “If I do make it tonight, things change. I pray to God. Well, the Housewives show true. We were the first ones out. That tells everyone who we are.”

Medley did not make it, as Bob the Drag Queen, 38, Reyes, 52, and third TraitorCarolyn Wigerdecided to kill the Bravolebrity, figuring it might implicate Mountbatten.

During aYouTube livestreamon Friday, Jan. 10, Bob the Drag Queen urged fans upset about Medley’s early elimination to “get over it.”

“We decided that Dorinda was gonna be our kill. This really pissed people off on the internet,” theRuPaul’s Drag Racestar said. “I don’t know this woman. I don’t know that she’s this icon onReal Housewives.I don’t know she’s causing a scene. I have no clue who Dorinda is, so I’m like, ‘Girl, kill her.’ I don’t know, let’s pick someone, because they’re all strangers to me.”

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source: people.com