'Frugal' Bride Fighting with Her Fiancé Because He Wants a Big Wedding They Can't Afford: 'Completely Against It'

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman is asking for advice because her fiancé wants to have a wedding beyond their means.

The newly engaged woman explained in her submission that her fiancé is a “wonderful man” and they have never had an argument until now.

“Weddings are expensive, and we agreed on a budget,” she wrote. “We will be paying for this on our own. Once we started getting into all the costs, we quickly realized we will have to lower the number of guests or increase the budget.”

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The woman said it doesn’t make sense to her to cause financial strain in order to accommodate wedding guests they barely see or talk to. Instead, she thinks they should save money and not invite them.

“I am completely against increasing the budget to accommodate family members my fiancé hardly talks to,” she continued. “I wanted a small wedding anyway. He feels obligated to invite all his extended family members, and I don’t understand it. I love him, but why are we obligated to overextend ourselves for people who won’t be a major part of our lives going forward?”

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“Although this may add to the expenses attached to your wedding, it could head off many problems down the road if the two of you get pre-marital counseling,” she wrote back. “There may be other ways to cut costs rather than shorten the guest list, particularly if your fiancé feels his family members might feel slighted if they aren’t invited.”

source: people.com