Groom 'Uninviting' His Parents from Wedding Because They Disagree with Decision to Not Serve Alcohol

Mar. 15, 2025

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A groom is “uninviting” his parents from his nuptials because they disagree with his decision to have an alcohol-free wedding.

The groom, 45, explained in aposton Reddit’s “Am I the A——” forum that his parents have complained about his every wedding decision, calling each choice “wrong.” He was “willing to put up with all that” — until now.

“My family has done nothing but make my life harder,” he wrote. “I want a gluten free cake for my husband-to-be? ‘No. Those don’t taste as good. Only make it 1 tier of the cake.’ I want my family to wear blue for pictures? ‘No. They don’t look good in blue. They prefer warm colors.’ I don’t want my nephew to bring the rings down? ‘But he’ll miss out on such a big moment for his uncle!’ "

With the wedding just a week away, the groom thought he was done hearing wedding criticism, but he was mistaken. The “last straw” was his parents' stance on his decision to not serve alcohol.

“My parents insisted we have an open bar instead of a dry wedding,” the groom said.

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The groom and his fiancé, 49, decided to not offer any alcohol to their wedding guests because they simply “don’t like drinking.” How “loud and obnoxious people become when they drink” would also interfere with the men’s vision of a “simple, beautiful” wedding.

“My parents just could not turn down another opportunity to complain about something,” the Redditor recalled. “Telling us about how, ‘Oh it’s too hard to meet people without a drink or two’ or ‘it’s a time to celebrate and party! At least have something for us to have!’ But I wasn’t budging.”

He told his parents that his decision to have a dry wedding was final, and that they were welcome to leave after the ceremony if they didn’t think they could enjoy an alcohol-free reception.

“My dad chimed in with ‘I guess I’ll just have to drink beforehand then,’ " he wrote. “And I lost it. I told him, ‘Actually. You won’t even have to do that. I’m done. You’re not coming. You’ve walked all over me this whole time. But this isn’t about you. This day is about me and my fiancé. And if you can’t stay sober to meet his family then you don’t need to meet them at all.’ "

The groom’s fiancé “supports” his decision, and walked out with him. However, the groom is now feeling “bad” and questioning if he made the wrong move.

“I’m their oldest kid finally getting married and I just told them they can’t be there to see it,” he said. “I’m wondering if I should allow a bottle of champagne at dinner just to appease them or if I should stick to the invite being taken away.”

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“Your parents/family should be making your life as easy as possible, not adding to the stress,” one person wrote in part.

“If your parents can’t socialize with people without having a drink first, they have bigger problems,” another individual said.

Other commenters, however, criticized the poster’s previous wedding decisions, saying that he seemed “controlling.”

“Having a dry wedding is fine, but uninviting your family because your dad might have a drink beforehand is ridiculous,” someone argued. “So is asking them to color coordinate — they aren’t bridesmaids.”

source: people.com