Man Causes Family Drama for Uninviting Dad’s Partner to His Wedding: ‘I Only Want People There Who Are Special to Me’

Mar. 15, 2025

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Shutterstock / Leandro Furlan

A man’s small, intimate wedding has turned into a major family disaster after he uninvited his dad’s girlfriend to the ceremony.

The 25-year-old man wrote onReddit’s “Am I The A——?” forumthat he is planning to get married with only his and his bride’s parents and siblings in attendance, as well as super close friends.

Detailing that his parents divorced when he was 12 years old, and, in most recent years, he and his father have had a strained relationship, the man wrote, “My father and I have mainly maintained an over-the-phone relationship for the past five years, and I honestly don’t feel a strong relationship with him because he has been very unreliable and has done pretty hurtful things to me in the past. But I want him at my wedding anyways because he’s my father.”

The groom-to-be added, “This long-distance relationship with him has also meant that I have interacted with his partner, with whom he’s been with for 5 years now, maybe a dozen times. And every time I get some alone time with my father, I get to hear him rant about how he has to put up with her lazy son living with them ever since they got together, so at different times, I’ve gotten the sense he’s about to break it off. So I felt she hadno business being at my wedding.”

Before sending out formal invites, the man said he let his father know about the wedding and told him “that it was a going to be a small and intimate event and to please not tell anyone else about it.”

However, after formal invites went out, the man said his father “confirmed attendance at my wedding with his partner.”

“I was taken aback and called him to clarify that the invitation was just for him, and I really didn’t want his partner there, since I only want people there who are special to me,” the man continued.

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A major fight then ensued, the man said, though his dad eventually agreed to come alone to the ceremony.

“But, since he had already invited her, he had to uninvite her, and they apparently got into this huge argument themselves over the same topic of me being an a—— and not accepting her as his partner,” the man then detailed.

The man also explained that his dad asked for an apology for his partner “so that [they] can all have some sort of relationship,” but the man explained, “I have apologized for not being clear in the first place about the invitation being exclusively for my father. But I don’t feel I should apologize for anything else.”

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“We did send out formal invitations about two months ago, where it specified a personal invitation, without any plus ones,” the man responded. “I sent this only to my father, he invited his partner even before we sent out invitations.”

“My mother didn’t have a [plus one]. I’m not from the U.S. but this wedding is the equivalent of a ceremony, and we will have the reception at a later date (this is because we need to be legally married to accelerate a visa process),” he continued, then adding of his dad’s partner: “She was (and still is) being considered for the reception.”

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Many people still thought the man was being unreasonable, however.

One person wrote, “It’s fair of him to assume his partner was invited and that he was not supposed to tell anyoneelse(like aunts, uncles, cousins, friends etc). The standard is to invite people’s partners. If she wasn’t invited, you should have clearly told him so.”

“So here’s the thing with weddings. You are entitled to invite who you want, but that doesn’t free you from the consequences of your actions,” another person added.

source: people.com