'Petty' Family Member Books 'Passive Aggressive' Relative a Vacation for Christmas — Then Cancels It Without Telling Them

Mar. 15, 2025

Family Member Books ‘Passive Aggressive’ Relative a Vacation for Christmas — Then Cancels It Without Telling Them.Photo:Tang Ming Tung/Getty; The Image Bank RF/Getty

Tang Ming Tung/Getty; The Image Bank RF/Getty

A Reddit user is opening up about their decision to enact some “petty revenge” after a family member they thought they had stopped arguing with decided not to get them a Christmas gift.

On Thursday, Dec. 26, a Reddit usershared their story about a confrontation with someone they called a “s—ty family member"to the r/PettyRevenge subreddit. According to the user, this family member could only be described as “honestly s—ty,” and they’ve had many arguments and differences in the past, but have since “made up” — at least, that’s what the Redditor thought.

“So this year for Christmas I gifted them a vacation they did really want to make,” the post states. “I printed out the booking reservation and gave it as a gift.”

To the user’s shock, the gift was completely one-sided. Their family member had not gotten a gift for Christmas — and they began insulting the user.

“[Not] only did shitty family member had nothing for me in return,” the user wrote — noting that their family member’s excuse was: “‘I just had so much stuff do to, honestly I totally forgot about you!'” — “they also continued to make passive aggressive remarks about my home and the food I provided,” as they were the host of the family Christmas party.

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Here’s where the pettiness begins — the Redditor revealed that they canceled the vacation without telling their family member.

“So petty me cancelled their vacation without telling them after I knew they were on their way to the destination,” they revealed.

“Yes, there are fees but I don’t care. I know they will be to stingy to book anything else and will instead return all the way back home fuming and annoyed — which is a great source of joy for me,” they finished. “Cheers!”

Much of the r/PettyRevenge community was in shock over this response, with many commenters questioning why the user would make this decision in the first place, or why they wouldn’t take the vacation for themself instead.

“Why didn’t you take the vacation yourself and change the names [on the tickets]?” one commenter questioned, to which the user replied with a frowny face: “Because I was enraged and impulsive.”

The Redditor wrote that they made the decision to cancel the trip while they were feeling ‘enraged and impulsive.'.Thomas M Barwick/Getty

Thomas M Barwick/Getty

Another commenter criticized the Redditor for giving such an expensive present to a person who had treated them poorly.

“You’re the one who looks stupid for knowing this family member is s—ty and still gifting them a vacation,” the critic wrote. “You sound like a doormat.”

Not everyone had negative things to say, however. Several replies praised the user for taking such direct action against someone who was rude to them.

“I love this, not only is this petty but 100% AWESOME!” another commenter added. “Next year be sure to ask them in front of everybody: ‘How was [your] trip?'”

source: people.com