Teddi Mellencamp Says Loneliness Is a 'Constant Ache' amid Divorce from Husband Edwin Arroyave: ‘So Much Shame’

Mar. 15, 2025

Teddi Mellencamp.Photo:River Callaway/Variety via Getty

River Callaway/Variety via Getty

Teddi Mellencampis getting candid about her feelings after filing fordivorce from Edwin Arroyave.

The Real Housewives of Beverly Hillsalum, 43, shared on the latest episode of herDiamonds in the Roughpodcast that she is still coming to terms with being apart from Arroyave, whom she split with in November after 13 years of marriage.

“I enjoy my alone time. I need to, like, recharge all of these things, but there’s moments that I’m feeling now, where I feel really lonely,” Mellencamp said. “And I don’t know if those loneliness feelings mean that I’ve made a mistake or this is just something I have to get used to, and this is, like, the new change in my life.”

Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp arrive at the 2022 iHeartRadio Music Festival.Mindy Small/Getty

Mindy Small/Getty

“Teddi, I remember the loneliness being, like, painful. I remember it’s like an ache,” Macaluso said. Mellencamp admitted, “it’s a constant ache that I’m trying to, like, fake my way through.”

“… And there’s shame too. Right? You mentioned shame,” Macaluso inquired, to which the reality star agreed, “So much shame.”

Mellencamp explained that “there’s been a lot of ups and downs in my life,” which began from her childhood after her father, singerJohn Mellencamp, had an affair with her mother, and she didn’t want to pass down that chaos to her own children. She shares three children with Arroyave — Slate, 12, Cruz, 10 and Dove, 4.

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“… My only goal has ever been, like, I just wanna give my kids stability,” she shared. “And I don’t know … if it’s loneliness or I feel scared. I also don’t feel like maybe I’m enough.”

Teddi Mellencamp with dad John Mellencamp, her kids and other loved ones.Teddi mellencamp/Instagram

Teddi mellencamp/Instagram

Her words come two months after she announced her separation from Arroyave onInstagram. She filed for divorce the day before the announcement, citing irreconcilable differences as the reason for their split.

“After a great deal of care and consideration, I have made the difficult decision to file for divorce,” she wrote in her statement. “My priority is my children and ensuring that every care is taken with their privacy and wellbeing throughout this new chapter.”

“Making a public statement is not something I wanted to do,” the Bravo alum continued, “But in an effort to protect my family from undue speculation and rumors, I have felt being open, honest, and vulnerable is the best path forward.”

Edwin Arroyave and Teddi Mellencamp.Charles Sykes/Bravo via Getty

Charles Sykes/Bravo via Getty

On Dec. 24, theReal Housewivesalum shared aseries of videosshowing how she was doing since the split – including a clip of herself in pajamas singing “All By Myself,” which mimics a scene inBridget Jones’s Diary —and shared some insight into how she was feeling spending Christmas apart from her kids.

“First Christmas without my kids, and I know they’re in great hands with an amazing dad, but that doesn’t mean I can’t feel some type of way,” she wrote, before sharing her plans for the day: “Ordered $74 of Thai food, eating cookie dough (who has time to bake) and watched 9 episodes ofLioness.”

As for Arroyave, he shared acryptic Instagram Stories poston Nov. 3 about how he was adjusting to life on his own. A screenshot from an app that tracks sleep showed he had received nine hours and 10 minutes of sleep, with an “optimal” sleep score.

“I recently spoke about just getting 3 hours of sleep a night,” he wrote in a caption. “Finally got some rest!”

source: people.com