The Love Boat's Jill Whelan Says Being Married 3 Times Taught Her to 'Never Settle' (Exclusive)

Mar. 15, 2025

‘The Love Boat’ star Jill Whelan and her husband Jeff Knapple.Photo:Jill Whelan/Instagram

Jill Whelan/Instagram

Jill Whelangrew up onThe Love Boat, and in 2017, she found her real-life forever when she married Jeff Knapple.

The actress, who serves as Princess Cruises’ Celebrations Ambassador, had been married twice before and has three kids from previous relationships. Whelan said that going through two divorces taught her to “never settle.”

“And you’re never going to remake somebody,” Whelan continued of the lessons she’s learned. “You better love them exactly the way they are when they come to you. And you’ve got to be yourself when you meet somebody because if they don’t love you for who you are, then it’s a constant game of acting like somebody else. You can’t sustain that. I used to say to people when I was single, I would much rather be single and happy than coupled and lonely.”

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TheEmpty Nesterspodcastco-host took that advice of being herself when she began dating Knapple, 68.

“When we started dating after both of our divorces, we both went, ‘You know what? I’m just going to be myself and if they don’t like this self, then that’s fine. No harm, no foul, but that’s not going to be the person for me. It’s either take me at my face value or don’t take me at all,’” Whelan said. “Because at some point the chickens are going to come to roost, and it is going to get sticky and ugly and complicated. It’s a lot easier [to be yourself]."

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Whelan tried to instill the importance of self-love in her children.

“The only way you’re able to truly find that roadmap to what real love for you is going to be is to love yourself first,” she said. “It’s kind of like what they say on an airplane, if the oxygen masks are released, put the mask on yourself first before you’re able to help somebody else. When you love yourself, you’re able to be selfless with somebody else because you’re not needy, you’re not looking for something that you don’t have.”

Jill Whelan and her husband Jeff Knapple.Jill Whelan/Instagram

TheLove Boatstar admitted she’s “made some mistakes in my life” that led her to question “what kind of roadmap am I leaving my kids” when it comes to love.

“It might’ve been a little bit later than a thought, but I finally feel like they do understand what that roadmap can look like for them,” she said. “They love my husband and he loves them, and it’s the same for his kids. And it’s important that we be ourselves in front of them so that they can see that that’s the best way to be.”

‘The Love Boat’ star Jill Whelan on the Royal Princess in Sydney on Feb. 5, 2024.Rocket Weijers/Getty

Rocket Weijers/Getty

“If I’m getting myself a cup of coffee in the morning, I’ll get him his and almost every night he gives me a back rub before we go to sleep, which is phenomenal and I’m incredibly spoiled and I know that,” Whelan said. “But just sitting together on the couch and holding hands, those little things are important. Respect is the best aphrodisiac there is.”

source: people.com