Tori Spelling Says Daughter, 16, Acts as 'Second Mom' of the Family After She's Struggled Being 'Primary Caretaker' amid Divorce

Mar. 15, 2025

Tori Spelling (middle), Stella (far left) and three of her other kids.Photo:Monica Schipper/Getty

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Tori Spellingis leaning on her older daughter amid her divorce fromDean McDermott.

On this week’s episode of her podcastmisSPELLING, the mom of five, 51, shared that her daughter Stella, 16, has been acting as a second mom to her other four kids as Spelling has adjusted to being separated from her ex-husband.

“Being a single mom and they’re with me, and their dad and I are super amicable and, you know, working through everything for the futures of separate families, but the kids live with me,” Spelling says. “I’m the primary caretaker.”

“And, as a single mom providing for them, there’s times when I’m working and I’m hustling. In the last three months, I’ve really been working my butt off, and I’m super grateful for that work,” she continues.

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“But it’s like, it’s been constant, and there were days, you know, my kids range from 17 to 7. The 17-year-old, a 16-year-old, a 13-year-old, a 12-year-old, and a 7-year-old. And to be honest, and she calls herself this, my 16-year-old, who is my eldest daughter, has always said, I’m the second mom, and she really is, Spelling says.

On Thanksgiving this year, theBeverly Hills, 90210alum shared a photo toInstagramfeaturing herselfposing with her children on the setofDancing with the Stars— which she competed in earlier this year.

“Happy Thanksgiving. Spending it loving hard and long on my 5 babies. The loves of my life. My purpose. My soul. They are truly all I need. I’m blessed and grateful for the amazing humans they all are.#loveyours#happythanksgivng#grateful,” she captioned the post.

The day prior, the actress shared a few moments from her Thanksgiving prep process on her Instagram Stories. The first post featured her son Beau pushing a grocery cart filled with two Thanksgiving pies and a bottle of wine.

A second post featured a clip of a countertop piled high with butter, vegetables, dried pasta and an assortment of Thanksgiving Day staples.

source: people.com