Woman Gets Into Argument with Fiancé After Saying She Doesn’t Want to Pay $10,000 Funeral Bill for His Mom

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman sparked an argument with her fiancé after telling him she doesn’t want to pay the $10,000 bill for his mother’s funeral.

“She was never really in his life (abandoned him at birth) and l’ve only met her one time in the 8 years we’ve been together,” she wrote. “Recently, she had come back into his life and they were on civil terms.”

When her fiancé got the news from the hospital that his mother had died, he felt “obligated” to handle — and fund — the funeral arrangements because “his other siblings are MIA or incarcerated.” The woman said she advised her fiancé to “do something simple” and inexpensive since no one else would be contributing financially, he has no savings and his mother did not have any life or burial insurance.

As it turns out, however, her fiancé did not heed her advice.

“Well today he surprises me after work with a 10k bill that he expects me to pay the majority of out of my savings because he can’t afford it,” she wrote. “We just recently moved into a more expensive apartment and at this point a 10 thousand dollar funeral is just not on the table but he won’t budge.”

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Someone else chimed in, “He will have to figure out how to pay it. It’s outrageous to expect you to pay for something that you weren’t even consulted about.”

Another person noted that circumstances of her fiancé’s relationship with his mother were irrelevant. “Even if his mother was the most saintly person on earth and was a wonderful mother to him, YOU are in no obligation to pay for her funeral. Especially when you didn’t agree to!” they wrote.

Others encouraged the woman to have a candid talk with her fiancé so he could better understand why she is unwilling to step up and pay the funeral bill. They also told her to suggest to him that they look into “more affordable options” to “honor his mom.”

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“It’s kind to want to support your fiancé, but a $10k funeral for someone he wasn’t close with seems excessive, especially if he’s not contributing much financially. Have an honest conversation about prioritizing your shared finances and explore more affordable options, like cremation or a small memorial, to honor his mom without breaking the bank,” one person wrote. “Supporting him emotionally doesn’t have to mean draining your savings.”

“After talking to him tonight and explaining that I will NOT be footing the bill for any sort of big expensive funeral, he left the apartment, after a long argument, to stay with his grandmother and basically hasn’t spoke to me since,” she wrote.

“We don’t have any combined finances/accounts so at this point I’m just over it, and he can stay gone for all I care,” she added.

source: people.com