Woman Refuses to Get Friends a Wedding Gift Because They Didn’t Buy One for Her and Her Husband: ‘Match Energy’

Mar. 15, 2025

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A woman wants to follow “the Golden Rule” — treat others as you would want to be treated — when it comes to buying friends awedding gift.

In her case, as she chronicled on Reddit’s“Am I the A——” forum, the woman is “refusing” to purchase a gift for her friend’sweddingbecause they didn’t get her and her husband a gift or card when they gotmarried.

Detailing that the soon-to-be groom was a groomsman in her wedding, the woman, 27, wrote, “My husband is now a groomsman in his wedding. They have been friends for 7 years and have a very low-maintenance friendship, they speak semi-often and see each other a couple times a year."

Explaining that she and the woman set to get married “are friendly but never got super close,” the Redditor said she doesn’t want to get them a gift, as a sort of revenge.

“I refuse,” she wrote. “I believe you should do to others as they do to you. Match energy, as the kids say these days.”

Guests at a wedding (stock image).Getty

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The woman emphasized how her husband, 29, disagrees with her and “thinks we should be the bigger people and still get them a gift” because the future bride and groom might have just forgotten to give a gift or card.

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“The friend probably figured the expense of being in the wedding party was good enough. If your husband doesn’t feel that way, let him do what he wants," one person wrote, which prompted the woman to respond, “I’m not ‘not allowing’ my husband to buy his friend a gift."

“There’s no financial burden on either side,” the original poster continued. “Neither were/are international weddings, but both parties had to travel domestically for both weddings."

Added the woman: “If anything, they paid less to come to ours as we covered the lodging and transportation for our bridal party and their significant others for the weekend, and we will pay for a hotel room and rental car when we go to theirs next month.”

In the woman’s defense, another person wrote, “Gifts are a thoughtful gesture, not an obligation, and it makes sense to reciprocate based on how they treated you.”

source: people.com